Nope, he doesn't live here. Over the past several months I have realized that Edward no longer knows how to do anything for himself-if he ever did.
The Evidence:
1. He doesn't know how to cook, unless you count scrambled eggs and sandwiches. I don't think he has ever made a meal for the kids that didn't involve chicken nuggets, PB sandwiches, or Mcdonalds. If I want them to have something nutritious, which I do!, then I have to prepare it myself and plate it up and put it in the fridge for later. That is if I am going out, which rarely ever happens.
2. When he loses something, he doesn't know how to look for it. Moves a few things around and tells me he can't find it. Doesn't seem to realize that you must move things in a specific way to look under papers, in baskets, etc. Somehow I always find said missing item within a few minutes.
3. He somehow thinks the counter is the trashcan, or his pockets. I am constantly finding cheese wrappers or Dr Pepper cans littering the countertops. Why? I guess those extra 2 feet to the trash can are too tiresome.
4. A few months back he came home from work and asked me if we had an iron. No, we don't, we have no room for an ironing board and I don't own clothes that need it. His response? We might need to get one, the boss said my clothes were too wrinkly today so you might need to start ironing my uniform. Umm? Excuse me? Those are not my clothes and I'm not ironing them, I have no time! Oh and then I got this gem, "when you wash and dry my clothes, can you make sure to hang up my uniform immediately?" Umm, yea sure. Which made me realize that he no longer does laundry, never really did other than putting something in the washing machine a few times a week or the dryer if I asked him to.
5. Dirty clothes belong on the bathroom floor apparantly as the basket 5 feet away is too far. Oh and stepping onto the actual bathroom rug when done showering? Hmm, apparantly that is too much work as well. Can't tell you how many times I have gone into our bathroom after his shower and step in a pile of water on the floor. Too much work to dry off while standing in the bath/shower and too much work to stand on the actual bathrug.
6. His truck is STILL registered to Texas. He has lived in Louisiana now for 4 years. Why is it not registered here? B/c he doesn't have the title. So he hasn't called the bank who had the title to find out how he can get it--whether or not it was transferred somewhere else during his bankruptcy or what, we don't know, but you have to actually call to find out about that. Oh and he doesn't have a current inspection sticker either. Why? B/c you have to have the registration to do that, and he doesn't have that b/c he doesn't have the title. I've stopped mentioning it to him about 18 mths ago, if he hasn't done it by now, what makes me think he will ever do it? Plus, as late as it is, who knows how much it will cost?! I had set aside 500$ 3 1/2 yrs ago so he could get it taken care of-was really hoping it wouldn't cost that much but we needed to be prepared just in case, however, the money sat there for several months and he told me to send it to a credit card bill as he didn't have time to take care of it yet.
So yes, this is a rant about me being tired of said things. I get it, he works, I don't get paid for my work as a mom/chauffeur/cook/bill payer/cleaner/dog walker/language teacher to Aidan. I understand that the bulk of household/child responsibilities fall on me, but that does not mean that said person can't do some simple things to make my job a little easier-like putting your dirty clothes in the basket, actually using the bathroom rug after showering, and throwing trash away in the trash can.
So, in order to compensate myself for my grievances, I have decided to no longer do his laundry. Which means I am not picking his dirty clothes off of the bedroom/bathroom floor. If he puts it in the basket(he has a choice of two) then I will wash/dry them, but again, I'm not folding/hanging them up. This has been going on about a week now and I'm not sure he has noticed. He did get out of the shower the other day and went to get underwear, poked his head out and said "my underwear aren't in the drawer, where are they?!" Did he look in the basket that houses the clean clothes, nope. Didn't even occur to him. I haven't said anything about me not doing his laundry, I'm hoping he will figure it out himself , but alas, men can be rather dense about this sort of thing and need a lotof direction in every step they need to take. So I will give him one more week to figure it out and if he doesn't get it by then, I will tell him that he needs to take care of his pile of laundry himself from now on.
Oh and to add one last tidbit, I am glad that my husband is able to work, and I can stay with the kids for now. I know he works 12 hr shifts 5 days some weeks and 2 days other weeks, so yes, I know it isn't feesible for him to do all of his laundry on a day that he works, I'm just asking for a little help such as putting his clothes in a basket so I can then wash them and he can fold them. I don't think it is too much to ask. If I was working I can guarantee I would be doing the same things I am now plus work.
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